General Confession - The fourth Commandment

Did I leave my wife (husband) in need, illness, misfortune…?
Do I take care of my child – left him because of irresponsibility, indifference, feeling of dislike, is a burden, because of laziness, of calculation (I use relatives, grandparents, babysitter – if it is necessary…), I placed my baby in a foster home.
I have started a new family (my partner from previous marriage does not want a child) – did I prefer partner than maternal (paternal) love – I rejected God’s gift (gift of a child, gift of motherhood, fatherhood, committing adultery).
Am I avoiding fulfilling my obligations at home and in education? Do I spend enough time with my family? Do I neglect them for work, friends, and hobbies?
Am I wasting common property?
Do I treat my wife / children badly – physically, mentally, morally, do I assign tasks that they cannot fulfill, Do I make long rebuke, criticisms, Do I close myself to them, do I fall into egoism?
Did I hit my wife (husband?) Did the children see it? Did I hit my pregnant wife?
Do I use in care for children disproportionate punishment, violence, abuse, denial of food?
Do I live my fatherhood / motherhood responsibly?
Do I teach children to avoid danger and immorality?
Teaching children to purity – the parent is responsible for ensuring that the child develops healthy attitudes towards sexuality. At home we have to create an atmosphere of purity, without pornography, contraception and abortion, an atmosphere of love, care and openness to fertility. As a result of improper upbringing – it leads child to spiritual death, to neglecting of the sacramental life, diving into the mud, which destroys in them everything that God has put into them and what he has gifted them.
Did I touch intentionally child’s intimate body parts? For fun? Did I make fun of it? (Especially for boys, e.g., when bathing). Was I showing child to other people? (e.g., photos while bathing, changing diapers – to entertain others…).
As far as possible, parents are obliged to choose the schools that will best help them in their role as Christian educators (leisure activities, hobby activities).
Unsuitable activities – all that lead to sin (envy, pride, immorality, mischief…), threaten morality (dance – unclean thoughts, touches, glances, music, revealing clothing – such as dance clothes, short skirts), cause neglecting of basic Christian duties (Sunday participation in Holy Mass, dances and entertainment during Lent – trainings…), they lead to idolatry, worship and worship of other “deities” (martial arts, yoga…).
Do I create an atmosphere of love, acceptance and well-being for children?
Am I strengthening my authority by setting a good example?
Do I expose the child to my own destiny, to the influence of coincidental friends?
Do I pay attention to the regular intellectual and moral development of the child?
Do I abuse my superiority of age and strength?
Do I help the child to correct his mistakes and bad nature and to develop good character?
Do I admonish, but I also praise fairly?
Am I releasing my tension, anger, nervousness, irony, fatigue on the child?
Am I teaching the child to forgive? Am I good example in this? Or do I tell to fight back, to take revenge…?
Am I teaching the child for responsibility appropriate to the age?
Did I, with too much care, make the child incapable of independence?
Am I not raising an egoist, a vain, a lazy person, a liar? Am I shaping child’s will and character?
Did I buy unsuitable toys, books, video games for my child (grandchild), do I let the child to watch inappropriate fairy tales? (Contrary to God’s truth, ugly characters, inciting violence, evil, aggression, unrest, fear, death, impurity, magic, vanity, in the form of devils, witches, monsters, vampires – also sweets and toys collections in the form of devils, etc.; many toys depict occult symbols, closely associated with the demonic cult).
Do I devote myself enough for raising and caring for the child, oversee homework – or do I leave everything to my wife (husband)?
Am I breaking up marriage and family of my child with my egoistic attitudes? Am I cause of quarrels in his/her family, do I encourage the quarrels? Am I poisoning my son’s mind against my daughter-in-law (daughter against a son-in-law)?
Am I interfering in an inappropriate and disproportionate way into the care of grandchildren? (But I have a duty to rebuke sin).
Am I making a child (grandchild) a “god”, an idol?
So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them… (Matthew 7:12) Does it takes place in my life?
Do I respect the right of others to personal freedom and dignity?
Do I promise rewards or threaten with punishment to change attitudes?
Am I not restricting the right to freedom of conscience, religion, change of life, true information?
Am I truthfully informing about the state of health, impending death? Am I misleading my neighbor? (With excuse that I don’t want to frighten him, to avoid stress, he/she wouldn’t bear the truth, out of indifference…) Do I manifest my mercy by truthfully informing him of the seriousness of the condition? – thus he is given the opportunity to organize his life, to correct the mistakes he has made, to receive the sacraments and to prepare as best as possible to stand in front of the Lord. Am I leaving him/her in delusion? (This is not an act of love).
Do I make sure that people seriously ill, the elderly, the dying – are reconciled with God?
Am I exalting myself? (Due to origin, education, job title, intelligence, knowledge, talent, race, color, nationality, reputation….).
Was I proud?
Am I thinking what I could do for people that I know they don’t believe in God, so they can return to Him?
Am I not demanding more from others than from myself?
Am I a person that is responsible, honest, conscientious, positive, and accurate; can others rely on me?
Do I count on others? Their needs, jobs, views, peculiarities, health status, life situation?
Am I good-natured, I help people as much as possible, I like to share advice, experiences, and I please the afflicted?
Do I envy, am I jealous, unwilling?
Am I wronging someone knowingly or recklessly? Do I stand to defend a person who has been wronged?
Am I seducing others to sin? (By advice, speech, jokes, gossip, ridicule, arousing outrage, slander, finger-pointing, silence – expressing tacit consent…).
Am I grateful for the provided good? Do I take it for granted, or as paid debt?
Do I argue? Am I inciting hatred/tensions? Do I not intrigue?
Am I fulfilling my civic duties? Am I avoiding paying tax?
Does my behavior hurt others or offend them?
Do I try to empathize with the situation of the weaker, the elderly, the lonely, the suffering, the handicapped, the orphaned, the poor, the dying – do I disparage them? Am I proving them a real help, interest, indulge them, giving courage?
Do I like to share?
Do I listen to others? Do I help in an emergency?
Do I perform my duties consistently? (At work, at home, duties of one’s profession/status).
Am I wasting time? (with TV, entertainment, empty talks, hanging out at night…).
Do I waste my talents, my skills – do I use them correctly? (Everything is to serve to glorify God, not to show off to people, my own glory, and pride, doing evil, and committing sin) – am I grateful to God for them? (Or I take credit for myself, I say to myself that I achieved something by my own efforts).
Am I calculating, fake, biased? Am I flattering others? Am I insincere?
Am I overcoming my egoism?

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